“To love means loving the unlovable. To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable. Faith means believing the unbelievable. Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless.” G.K.Chesterton
Tuesday, 15 March 2011
Parental Alienation - How to Stop it and Win Custody
One of the saddest situations happens when a child has been bribed or manipulated into turning against the other parent during or after a custody battle. Often, this parent is the better of the two parents.
Take one parent, for example: a warm and hard-working professional, who runs into all of the following from their ten year old daughter, when they try to phone or comes to pick the girl up for an access visit:
"I don't want to talk now. I'm busy." (The child slams the phone down.)
"You know I don't like to see you!"
"You're bothering us; don't call me !" (The parent, rightly so, wonders who the "us" is in this statement.)
This parent frequently hears what is a sure sign of a bribed or manipulated child. Words and sentences that are obviously not of the child's own creation, but rather from the bitter and vindictive other parent:
"You decided to leave us. This is all your fault. You're not entitled to share in my life anymore."
This is a classic case of parental alienation.
Unfortunately, most parents singled out to be the victims of such vitriolic attacks are poorly equipped to deal with them. They start out trying to be calm and loving, but all too soon are worn down by the hurt, frustration and road blocks continuously thrown up when they attempt contacts with the child. They end up either retreating, or counter-attacking---neither of which can lead to a happy outcome. It is essential that parents caught up in this kind of trap learn the four strategies that can be truly effective and helpful in this situation.Click Here!
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access visit,
custody battle,
parental alienation
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